This is How you can!
Let me tell you today, how you can WIN the hearts of others. That, I consider is the biggest secret of success in personal and professional life. Yes, it is a skill. But a skill you can learn. A skill you can acquire. And apply it to your advantage.
Many of us are into habit of getting into arguments. In a normal conversation too. Some are simply of an argumentative nature. They think, with an argument, they can WIN over the situation and prove the point. But it does not happen that way. YOU never ever WIN an ARGUMENT. Because, you have hurt someone’s ego in a heated discussion or an argument. That person never forgets it. He or she is just waiting for the right opportunity to hit back at you. And I have seen invariably, they succeed in getting back at you. Never get into an argument with a boss or fellow worker. You may express your opinion in a friendly way and I have observed people like it that way.
Arguments never make you a WINNER.
In an office, it certainly is a wrong approach ( otherwise too) and I consider it as a foolish approach. Never get into an argument with anyone and certainly not the boss or colleague. Always remember, everyone has a point of view and everyone is loaded with the views. So the WISENESS is to be a GOOD LISTENER. And respect others with their views. There are bound to be different opinions and views. You must learn to respect those.
However, if you do want to make a point, you may do so but in a very thoughtful manners. If you think, you are right in your view, try to convince others with your rational, logical and convincing presentation of facts. If it still is not convincing, be a GOOD LISTENER. Don’t take it personally and make an issue out of it. There is always a very thine line between what is right and what is wrong. Think again about your perspective, may be you were not very convincing in your presentation or may be, you did not do your home work well to convince others. Whatever, learn from your failures. Let your failures be good lessons for you to learn from.
Let me tell you the secret of success… when you make mistakes, learn from it. You will succeed in life. As someone rightly said the following …
A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes,
Smart enough to profit from them,
and strong enough to correct them.
Let me tell you my approach….
I do not get into any arguments with anyone. WHY? Because, I know, arguments don’t convince others but your rational, logical and effective presentation is more convincing. You also need to avoid offensive tone in your arguments and must give examples in support of your views. Of course, your examples must be relevant and to the point you are trying to make. Anything besides the point can be a very poor presentation of your views and is bound to fail. Make sure you have done your homework well and you are convinced yourself FIRST in your own presentation.
This approach can help you WIN people. And you will have more friends than enemies.
This is a WINNING ATTITUDE and makes you successful in your professional career.
